Tears of Silence

Look everywhere, all around you. Do you see their faces, their pain, the loneliness eating them away?

Oh, the pain, it’s very active in our hearts. Most likely, no one knows of your silent pain; your tears run down your face every night as you lay in bed. Who knows the reason for those tears? Who would understand your silent suffering? Does anyone care?  

The heart is a sensitive and tender place, and many life situations cause pain from the time of our infancy or early beginnings. The pain can not be avoided; sometimes, something will happen sooner or later, a trigger will be set off, and the hurting words will be spoken out of anger. The pain is real! The pain, in fact, is indisputable. It’s enough to mess up our heads because of the mild to severe physical discomfort and emotional distress. It ruins people forever. This pain is the root of drug usage & alcoholics, intimidators, narcissists, rapists, murderers, and other emotionally distressed individuals. 

I am very attentive to children, and while I do errands, I see the people around me, and I can tell when a child, a teenager, or young adult, or even a mature adult is suffering silently. I can see through those eyes and the facial displays; their faces speak to me. What really hurts me is seeing a young child struggling and crying because no one understands them. I can imagine their frustration and pain. As adults, we suffer from other ill-mannered individuals; we can relate to, clearly understand, and deal with it.

I encourage parents to explain to their children why the answer is “no.” This is very important. Why is it necessary? Well, imagine a child that is either hungry, thirsty, hurting emotionally, suffering sexual or physical abuse, or has spoiled diapers. It is essential to explain your answer. This helps the young child to understand why it is a “no.” It helps them learn and understand the situation, considering it is a typical no. This usually helps them grow up emotionally healthy. Explaining and teaching a child helps them to learn, but it allows them to understand you. However, don’t tell them “no” just because you don’t want to deal with whatever is happening. Please have compassion for your child.   All the anger they suffer hurts them emotionally, and they will resent you.

Time travels fast, and by the time you know it, these infants, young children, teenagers, and young adults have grown up. The pain is stored in their hearts, life seems alright, and there are promises of a bright future. But little do we know that we love, hate, and mistrust those around us in all our relationships. As we go through life, uneventful events bring sadness and pain, tears of silence.

To us adults, we suffer in silence because we understand it is up to us to decide our actions, whether easy or difficult. During our turmoil, we suffer. No one is aware of the suffering and pain. No one knows you are suffering silently, nor do they see your tears. We may have bad relationships or marriages or suffer silently in our private world; we are somehow unhappy or in trouble. Who can give us the correct answer, help us, and deliver us from this pain? We can read all the self-help books, but will they even give you the answer you seek? If you try every point, will it solve your problems or heal your heart? 

I recall reading from scripture that as we come to Christ, we will suffer for a little while; the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish us (1 Peter 5:10). Our broken hearts can be mended in Christ. Our hearts can be made whole, sound, and healed from the pain life has placed upon us. For this is a gracious thing when mindful of God, one endures sorrows while suffering unjustly (1 Peter 2:19) in hurtful situations. You may say, “Well, I’m not suffering because of Christ.” You have a point, but I’m telling you that we need to give our hearts to God. He (Yahweh) will mend our broken hearts. Not only that, he will make us whole again. This is a cruel world; we are not the only ones in pain. There are millions of people crying themselves to sleep every day. 

We need all the mercy we can get. We need to be placed at ease in our sorrows. I love this scripture that says, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any pain, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. It describes God as the Father of mercies, the God of all comfort … I love this! Not only that, but we can use our own experiences to comfort others.  

Another lousy relationship that goes unacknowledged is suppressing your feelings in unhealthy ways, especially when those feelings are anger or resentment. This alone can make you suffer silently. You may not want to hurt the other person, so you keep things stored in your heart. If you are single, you can move on, but if you are married and have communication problems, work it out. Every couple will endure hardship, but it doesn’t mean it won’t cause you pain and tears. You are the ideal candidate for suffering in silence. You will need help understanding. Who can you talk to? In many circumstances, you suffer alone; you suffer in silence. This is not healthy; you may need to seek counseling. Talking to someone will help, but only when you decide to take action will you come to an agreement or resolution to your pain.   

This scripture brings me comfort, and I will share it with you, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10  

I pray that no matter your situation, you’ll find happiness, but most of all, you will find peace and joy. As it says in John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” So, let it be, amen. 

Suffering in silence is not a good thing; no matter what happens, protect yourself from harm mentally, physically, and spiritually. Be aware that God, YHWH, hears your cries, and He wants you to seek Him, and He will take care of you; if you trust in Him. Casting all your anxieties on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7